Dating after a divorce can be both intimidating, and an exciting new opportunity. Depending on how long you were in a committed partnership, it may be years since you were last single. You are now older, have a lot more responsibilities than you did in your early 20s, and may have children. That said, there are a lot of positive things about “mature” dating. There are numerous reasons for divorce, but one of the most common is that partners have grown apart, with either one or both partners expressing changes in their values and/or direction in life.  And so, as hard as it is to have a relationship end (even when it’s for good reasons) having the opportunity to date to find a new partner who may be a much better match can be a wonderful thing. Add to this, that most older women would say they know themselves better, have developed better relationship skills, and are more established in their careers.

As a Dating Coach, I have a lot of conversations with single men and women about what they are looking for in a potential match.  Everyone wants to meet and be with someone they are attracted to. Yet, attraction is subjective; what one person finds attractive another may not.  That is except for two qualities I hear over and over again - and no, it has nothing to do with height, age, or cup size!  Both men and women rank “fit” and “passion” high on their lists of characteristics they find most attractive in the opposite sex.  What I find most intriguing is that many of these same people aren’t necessarily fit or living passionately themselves, though they wish they were.